Tonight, I watched my father die
Sitting in the corridor of the hospital so the nurse could turn and clean up my father, I returned text messages of concern for his health. My dad had for the most part been asleep for the last week. Doris his wife, was at the hospital all day. Denise, my wife and son, Noah were also at the hospital most of the day. Victor, my step-brother had been there almost all day. Baby brother, Steve was also there for a good while during the day. I had been up sense 4 AM, baking a pound cake for the church “Taste Fest,” and putting the finishing touch on two different sermons based on some of the last words my dad had uttered, “Lord, Change My Circumstance” and “Why Me”? I went to church without eating breakfast. After church, Noah sent me a text saying I should come to the hospital right away. I went immediately to see my dad. After an hour or so, I announced that I was going home to take a nap and I would return at 7 PM. When I returned, Doris, Victor and Denise were still there.
Earlier that afternoon, I brought a copy of my book of prayers and photographs to the nurse who first attended to my dad in that unit. I showed her and another nurse some of the prayers and photographs and talked about prayer. They seemed genuinly interested and pleased to receive a copy of the book and for a brief moment the three of us talked about prayer and heaven. She told me that one day as she came in to check on him he had folded his hands, shut his eyes, and was praying. When she came near to him, she said he prayed a prayer for her. It really moved her that her patient was praying for her. We reminded each other that almost until the end that he would try to pray the “Lord’s Prayer” out loud. He was a man of faith. In his half-sleep state, he would mouth the words to the songs of our faith.
Around 9 PM, Doris stepped out to allow the nurse to work on my dad. Denise, Steve, Victor and Noah had returned home, and I was out in the hall so the nurse could turn my father and do some procedure that I did not want to see. Suddenly, the door burst open and the nurse came out with wide eyes saying something to the effect of, “You should come in right now because I think he is about to leave us.”
It was stunning on a lot of levels. I did not think today was the day he would die. No matter how sick a person is, death is like a punch to the gut. He was so peaceful, quiet, and calm, it seemed incredible that this was the end. I asked the nurse how come she knew he was dying. She told me that he was only taking one breath a minute and even that was slowing down. I could not believe it. Earlier that day, his doctor told me on the phone that she was one of the best of the nurses in that unit. In those moments I saw why the doctor was so impressed with her. Within seconds, four other nurses appeared and then two doctors. Like the morning dew, the breath of life was leaving his body. In the end, I just stood there thinking about the circle of life. Here I was, his first born, alone with him in death.
Yes, it was a sad moment, but it brought back a lot of memories, going all the way back to New Orleans, working as his assistant minister at Plymouth UCC in Detroit, thinking about Fullerton Street in Detroit and a whole lot of other thoughts. I kept reminding myself that he had lived a good life for 92 years and had accomplished much more than most of us could in four life times: elected and served on the Detroit City Council for 28 years; developed over forty acres of housing in the “Black Bottom” of Detroit; constructed a 1.6 million dollar church; established a mental health ministry; .laid the ground work for the first church sponsored charter school in Michigan; an original signer for the SCLC in New Orleans; encouraged Andrew Young to go into the Ministry and preached the ordination sermon for Andrew Young, forced the City of New Orleans to pave the streets around his church and so much more. Thinking of his accomplishments helped to take away the sting of his death.
His death was so easy, gentle and smooth, I had to ask the nurse was he really dead. She assured me he was dead. The doctors came in and ran a test to confirm the death, but he was already gone. I was stunned looking at him lying there in a peaceful repose. The nurse said something to remind me that he had gone on to reap the rewards of his faith. As I listened to her I began to think about the assurance of the Apostle Paul that death is not the end of life. Tonight, I watched my father die, but the good news is that he lives eternally with Jesus Christ!
I Corinthians 15: 51 Listen, I will tell you a mystery! We will not all die, but we will all be changed, 52 in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. 53 For this perishable body must put on imperishability, and this mortal body must put on immortality. 54 When this perishable body puts on imperishability, and this mortal body puts on immortality, then the saying that is written will be fulfilled:
“Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
55 “Where, O death, is your victory?
Where, O death, is your sting?”
56 The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
58 Therefore, my beloved, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the work of the Lord, because you know that in the Lord your labor is not in vain. [1]
Written by Rev. Dr. Nicholas Hood III
Photo by Nicholas Hood III
Additional Prayers Photos and Meditations from Rev. Dr. Nicholas Hood III at https://nicholashoodiiiministries.wordpress.com/
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[1] The Holy Bible: New Revised Standard Version. (1989). (1 Co 15:51–58). Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers.
April 11, 2016 at 6:01 am
Beautiful, simple (yet profound); POWERFUL!!!
Minister D.M. Holifield On Apr 11, 2016 4:48 AM, “Nicholas Hood III Ministries” wrote:
> Nicholas Hood III Ministries posted: “Tonight, I watched my father die > Sitting in the corridor of the hospital so the nurse could turn and clean > up my father, I returned text messages of concern for his health. My dad > had for the most part been asleep for the last week.” >
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April 11, 2016 at 7:20 am
So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and family. A great man will be missed
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April 11, 2016 at 8:02 am
My prayers are with you and your family. Thanks for sharing such a private moment both here and at service yesterday. I feel very blessed to have known him. Each time he preached I always left feeling fulfilled! God bless you all!
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April 11, 2016 at 8:20 am
Rev. Dr. Hood, Thank you for sharing such a touching moment in your life with us. As you celebrate the life of your father, may God continue to bless and keep you and your family in His care. Rest in knowing that your father’s legacy as a father, husband, activist, leader, trailblazer, scholar, builder, and theologist will live on in the many lives he touched.
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April 11, 2016 at 8:32 am
Thank you, Papa Hood, for the memories of when you touched my life with your wisdom, your encouraging words and your joy. I will remember you with a smile and give thanks for your presence in my life.
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April 11, 2016 at 9:15 am
Rev. Hood, Thank you so much for letting us share this moment with you. Emory and I, being in Georgia now, really missed seeing you and your family, and I especially missed your dad and his handshake and smile. It always encouraged me, whether I had just sang a song, or just passing through at church. He will truly be missed. His sense of humor was keen “And she touched the hem of my garment!” He would say when a female member tapped his shoulder from behind. You and family take care, we love you and are praying for you during this difficult time. Sincerely, Cheryl and Emory Bell
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April 11, 2016 at 9:51 am
Amen. I send prayers of strength to you and your family today and everyday.
Much love from one of millions touched by your parents.
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April 11, 2016 at 9:54 am
To the Hood Family. So very sorry to hear of the passing of Reverend Hood Senior. I always called him Rev Senior. He will be missed and He is at peace. Keeping all in my prayers
Blessings and Love
Carol Goss
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April 11, 2016 at 10:09 am
Detroit has lost a true citizen and a Christian BUT his light will never cease to shine before mankind
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April 11, 2016 at 10:33 am
May your father rest in peace, with our Heavenly Father. I meet him years ago, once as a councilman the other time when he came into our government office. I remember him as being a gracious man of God. Sorry for your loss, but a great gain for Heaven.
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April 11, 2016 at 10:34 am
Condolences to you, your family and your church family members
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April 11, 2016 at 11:05 am
Dear Nick & Denise – we are blessed to have shared the journey with your Dad & Elizabeth in the ’70’s & ’80’s – and now join you in giving thanks to God with his home going.
Love, Roger & Joanne Pohl
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April 11, 2016 at 12:30 pm
Beautiful, I had flashbacks of many memories while I read your testimony.
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April 11, 2016 at 2:15 pm
Rev Hood, thanks so much for sharing these moments with us. Emory and I, being in Georgia, really miss you and your family, especially your dad. He always had a handshake and a smile, to encourage me after a solo, or just passing through at church. He had the most keen sense of humor. “And she touched the hem of my garment!” he would say, if a female member tapped him from behind. I remember his sermon where he mentioned the great “cloud” in the sky, referring to icloud technology, and I hadn’t even heard of it yet. Remember the good times, he will be very much missed. In deepest sympathy, Cheryl and Emory Bell.
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April 11, 2016 at 2:54 pm
My prayers are with you and your family I fill as through I’v lost a family member i’v known your family since 1964 when your Mother was my counselor at Jefferson Junior High School on Selden and the Lodge Freeway. When your Dad ran for City Council we passed out Literature For his campaign Again my blessings are with you And the family And I will keep you all in my prayers
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April 11, 2016 at 3:30 pm
Paster Hood I am so sorry for your loss your father was a man of greatness in the Lord he will now rejoice in Heaven God bless and keep you and your family JoAnn Purry
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April 11, 2016 at 7:05 pm
Nick, this is such a beautiful tribute to your dad and represents what a gifted servant of God you are. My prayers are with your immediate family and our extended Plymouth church family. My heart knows that Rev. Hood Sr. Is no longer in pain and is and will continue to smile down on you. Trust that even a minister needs to know that your tears will be replaced with smiles and that the ultimate feeling of peace is knowing that you will meet again! Love you all!
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April 11, 2016 at 8:09 pm
Nick and family, my prayers are with you. God has blessed us all with his life, his presence, and his ministry. My sincerest sympathy. Peace is with you.
Nesia (Hamida) Dougherty.
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April 11, 2016 at 8:20 pm
As a teenager I was privelaged to work with councilman Hood as part of my high school government class. I am very sadden to hear of his departure form this earth. But also thankful that he has taken on immortality with the Lord! My prays go out to the Hood family.
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April 11, 2016 at 8:25 pm
This great Man will be missed.
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April 11, 2016 at 9:10 pm
This was so beautiful. God bless you and your entire family. Your father will never be forgotten.
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April 11, 2016 at 10:16 pm
What a beautiful peace…It brings back memories of my mom’s death…The nurses and doctors predicted on point. The one thing I remember is looking into her eyes..I wasn’t ready to let go…I hugged her tight in my arms as she closed them and slipped way…I was balling…Finnaly, I heard the mute say, “She’s gone, Do you want to let go now?” I’ll NEVER forget that …She was 80…Be blessed my brother…
My husband said to me, “Rev. Hood passed today”… He had the opportunity to meet him at the wedding reception of Angela and Micheal Ingram, we sat at the same table. That afternoon they talked, laughed and joked. After we left, I teased him…”See ya got a new friend”, he said, “Yes, he’s a very nice man”…
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April 11, 2016 at 11:18 pm
Hi, Your story is beautiful! Thanks for sharing. I think I felt a special connection from the death of my own mom. I was holding, hugging her and balling when she left. The nurse told my sister and I when I asked, “How do you know she’s going?” It was because her blood pressure was low and falling” …I remember my mom looking into my eyes and then as if to say, “It’s ok”, closing hers. I’ll never forget that second, cause that’s all it was…
The day your dad made his transition my husband told me, “Senior Hood passed today” Had it not been for a couple years ago, he may have never commented. He is a man of FEW words. But at the wedding reception of Angela and Mike Ingram we were seated at the table with him. He and my husband talked the whole time. It was like they were truly, ” Old friends”. My husband never forgot that chance meeting and from time to time would comment on what a special man he was…I agree…RIP Rev. Hood.
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April 12, 2016 at 12:03 am
Rev. Hood,
Thank you for your candid reflections on such a personal moment. God is calling many of his home in the past few weeks and as we are left on this earthly journey we experience the passing of saints to be an example to others. So thank you for again, being that Godly example.
Your father was a kind and Godly warrior working on the behalf of others who had no voice; he is at rest from the earthly journey; he walked it well.
My, our condolences to you and your family.
The (Ohio/Indiana) Reeder family
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April 12, 2016 at 4:10 am
You have our condolences, Dr. Hood. This great man left his mark on the world, and you carry his legacy forward with integrity and power. May the God of all comfort walk with you and your family.
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April 12, 2016 at 8:20 am
Rev Hood and Denise I’m sorry for your loss and pray that God continues to bless you all. Your fathers eyes should joy and excitement of a young 25 yr old man. His smile would light up a room and always had words of encouragement for me. We will miss him and carry him with always. We love you all dearly and will continue to keep you and your family in prayer. Love Tge Reeders
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April 12, 2016 at 10:47 pm
Thank you, Angela. My dad was really impressed with how you have grown in such a wonderful way. thank you for the kind words.
Nick
PS Steve thinks you are the smartest person in the world! Smile
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April 12, 2016 at 12:56 pm
Nick, I’m SO glad you were there when he passed, one of the most amazing experiences a loved one can share. Your dad was one of the best and I thank you for sharing this with all of us. Much love to you, my friend. Love, love and love.
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April 12, 2016 at 10:42 pm
Lisa, I think sometimes of all the years my Dad and I would stop by your home to pick up your aunt, Marion on the way to church. She was a great organist. thank you for your kind words. Nick
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April 12, 2016 at 2:33 pm
Beautiful reflections of your father. God be with you and your family. In the words of one of my favorite songs by Bishop Paul Morton “He will wash all of your tears away”
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April 12, 2016 at 5:04 pm
I read your story about watching your Father Die. It literally moved me to tears. Your words were very powerful and moving.
I will be unable to attend the funeral, but you and the rest of the Hood Family / my Family will be in my prayers as you grieve and celebrate the death of your Father.
Your Cousin,
Rev. Carl V. Nelson
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April 12, 2016 at 10:44 pm
Thank you, Carl. You have been a great historian of the family.
Nick
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April 13, 2016 at 2:07 am
On Christmas Day 2015, Rev. Hood’s 95-year-old sister, Dharathula Hood “Dolly” Millender, passed away, also in an ICU unit. I did not take my MOM’s passing as tenderly as you, Cousin Nicky. But it was your father’s (Uncle Nick’s) eulogy at MOM’s homegoing service in Gary, IN where she was the City’s Historian that helped to quell my anguish and bitterness about the manner in which she passed away. His brief yet poignant eulogy was so well received by those in attendance that news of Uncle Nick’s passing is reverberating among Garyites and others over Facebook even now. Uncle Nick’s eulogy to his sister can be viewed on this youtube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06k072rMUcI
He was my last uncle, and I will miss his gentle voice calling weekly to check on his sister, and then later, checking up on me. (Naomi Millender)
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April 13, 2016 at 9:49 am
Rev. Hood, Judge Denise, Steve & Family,
We grieve with you in the loss of your dear father. As a 50 year old, I don’t remember my life without the Hood name being in the community.The Hood family is a fine example of dignity and grace to Detroit. Over the years I have had the opportunity to visit Plymouth for various events. Each experience was a warm one. May the Lord Jesus comfort you during your time of loss. Your dad was an amazingly wonderful and dignified man. His legacy in this city will live on forever.
Char Goolsby & Family
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April 13, 2016 at 12:30 pm
I haven’t been in PUCC in years. However this Pioneer For Christ…for mankind…for Family cannot be summed up by saying sorry for your lost! Lost is when you don’t know where something or someone is….Not being rude to anyone but only to enlighten. Men and Women of Greatness comes along sometimes for a short lived time and we never really prepare ourselves for their departure. However …thank God for intervention to help us thru these difficult times with His Love and Understanding!!! Dr. Hood, leaves capable Men and Women in His stead to continue a work well done!
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April 14, 2016 at 4:51 am
Dear Nick your dad was always a very special person to me, not becauseReverend Hood was my minister but because he was a good friend. He always had encouraging words when ever I did anything that he approved of. As everyone will agree, Rev. Hood was a gentle caring person and demonstrated this every day of his life. Your tribute is beautiful, and says how much you loved your Dad. My condolences to you, Denise, Doris and the rest of your family.
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April 14, 2016 at 1:43 pm
Thank you so much, Marian
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April 14, 2016 at 1:48 pm
Thank you, Marian
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April 14, 2016 at 11:28 pm
Dear Reverend Hood,
I want to first express my condolences to you and your family on your father’s passing.
I’m sure you know it, but your father is a giant. I grew up with parents, and really a large collection of adult relatives, who had so much admiration and respect for him. Such a blessing to his city, his congregation, and to my family. We are grateful to have known him. The events that he presided over in just my family’s life are almost too numerous to mention. Family christenings, including mine and that of my brother Charles. My parent’s 25th and 50th wedding anniversaries. He married Remell and I thirty years ago this year, and performed the christening of my son, David.
To me, your father’s voice always sounded like cool water. There was such comfort in it! To hear him speak from the pulpit, and see him buoyed by the message so that he slightly bounced on his toes as he spoke.
I’ve read your moving account of the day your father passed. As much as I can, I would like to offer you comfort, as you offered it to me. I remember that Remell and I were with my father at the hospital, just after he died, and somehow, within minutes, you walked in. We had not made any calls, you were just suddenly there. I remember that coming into the room and hearing that he had passed, you did not look at him. You focused on us, and the comfort you could bring us. You assured us that we had done a good job taking care of him, which is what we needed to hear at that moment.
Please know that you have done a great job taking care of your father. Not just recently, but all of your life. Being his son and namesake, continuing his legacy on Detroit City Council, and assuming the mantle of responsibility of leading his church. I’m sure his pride and pleasure about the man you’ve become was, and is, boundless.
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April 15, 2016 at 8:56 am
Blair, thank you so much for sharing. I thought the world of your mother, father, and grandmother. Blessings and peace and continued thanks to you. Nick
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