The Husband Should Give to His Wife Her Conjugal Rights –

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Newly Weds- Theda and Jonathan Grey

 

Saturday, my wife performed a marriage for a young couple in her courtroom.  The couple, Theda and Jonathan Grey are a handsome couple who seem to be so much in love.  At the conclusion of the wedding ceremony they asked me to offer a prayer.  After the prayer I said a few words about the history of “Jumping the broom”, they kissed and were off to starting their lives as husband and wife.

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Just before the prayer, I shared a few words from 1 Cor. 13 where Paul talks about love being patient and kind, not jealous or boastful…but what I also thought about was something Paul says in chapter 7 of the same book:

1 Corinthians 7: The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.[1]

I did not say what I was thinking, because it seemed impolite to tell a young couple on their wedding day that it is not only ok, but good and important that husbands and wives should be generous, gracious and good in attempting to fill the sexual desires of their spouse.  The Apostle Paul talks at great length about the sexual responsibilities of husbands and wives.  I am going to post more of what Paul says about the sexual responsibilities of husbands and wives and then ask yourself, “Am I living up to what Paul teaches regarding “Conjugal rights” for husbands and wives?  If you are single and thinking about getting married, you should ask yourself this question, am I prepared to love a person enough to do everything it takes to satisfy a spouse both physically and emotionally?

Listen to the fuller statement that Paul teaches on how husbands and wives should honor each other sexually:

I Corinthians 7 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is well for a man not to touch a woman.” But because of cases of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time, to devote yourselves to prayer, and then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. This I say by way of concession, not of command. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has a particular gift from God, one having one kind and another a different kind. [2]

Questions for Reflection:

  1. What are your thoughts about “Conjugal rights”?
  2. Are “Conjugal rights” inclusive of something more than sexual relations?

 

Prayer:  Lord, I pray today for the married people.  I pray today that every husband and every wife would have the courage and freedom to seek and receive physical intimacy.  Lord, grant every husband and every wife a sense of awareness of each other’s body.  Lord, help us not to force ourselves upon one another, but teach us to give and receive in a free manner.  Teach us to be spiritual in every way, even in our sexuality.  Bless every husband and every wife to grow daily in love and closer in the intimacy of sharing, understanding, and pleasing one another.  Through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior I pray.  Amen.

 

Written by Rev. Dr. Nicholas Hood III

Photo by Rev. Dr. Nicholas Hood III:  Theda Gibbs and Jonathan Grey on their wedding dad

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[1] The Holy Bible: New Revised Standard Version. (1989). (1 Co 7:3). Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers.

[2] The Holy Bible: New Revised Standard Version. (1989). (1 Co 7:1–7). Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers.