Disagree as if Divorce is Not an Option! –

Tracey and Hilmer Kenty with me and Denise after the wedding of Tracey’s sister, Sherry White to Mubasha Newsome – I married Hilmer and Tracey 24 years ago


Saturday, I officiated the wedding ceremony for Sherry White and Mubasha Newsome.  Sherry’s mother and father were the first couple my father married when we moved to Detroit from New Orleans.  As I prepared to consecrate the wedding rings I said the following words to the bride and groom that went something like this: “When you argue or disagree, argue as if divorce is not an option.  People who assume that divorce is not an option will be more thoughtful about the language they use, even in disagreement, because the goal of the disagreement is resolution, not simply to win the day.”

I then reminded them of the words of the Apostle Paul in 1st Corinthians 13: Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. [1]

Sherry and Mubasha are bakers who work in the culinary department for MGM Casino in Detroit, Michigan.  I encouraged the couple to approach their marriage with the same attitude that they utilize in baking.  Mubasha is responsible for cakes and gelatos.  Sherry bakes breads.  I used the example of balance in baking, for example, the balance of sugar to butter, eggs and flour and so forth in cakes and yeast to water and flour and egg with the bread.  I wish the young couple a life time of happiness.

I performed the wedding of Christina and Anthony Rome 19 years ago.  Standing with them is there son, Austin.  Christina was a bridesmaid in Sherry’s wedding.


For those who are married who are reading this post, I offer you the same advice I gave during the wedding – “Disagree as though divorce is not an option.”  If you follow this one bit of advice, God will bless your marriage, and will establish your home in peace.

Angela and Freddie Bishop are a young couple I married 9 years ago


One of the other things that happened during the wedding of Mubasha and Sherry was that several of their family and friends whose weddings that I performed over the years were present.  I took photos with several of these couples, almost as “Trophies” of my ministry in marriage.  With so many divorces that take place, it was refreshing to see several couples who are making marriage happen.  I want to share the photos of some of these couples with you.  Thanks for reading.  Blessings…Nick

[1] The Holy Bible: New Revised Standard Version. (1989). (1 Co 13:4–7). Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers.